Falling in love is the most beautiful thing we can experience in this lifetime. Fulling understanding the way your boyfriend gives and receives love and how you give and receive love is the highest power you both can have in your relationship. Understanding your love language and his love language will create the most positive and successful bond to move forward into a strong and healthy relationship for years to come.

This post is all about understanding the way you are your boyfriend gives and receives love! 

What in the world is a Love Language?

• In simple terms, your love language is emotionally how you feel the most loved and how you give and show love to others. Your love language transpires into every aspect of your life with family, friends, and your boyfriend. Knowing your love language and your boyfriends will catapult you both into a successful relationship.

How many Love Languages are there?

• Simply put, there are 5 love languages. Gary Chapman concluded that we all have each love language inside us but we have a dominant language that is at the forefront of the way we love.

What are the Love Languages?

• Words of Affirmation
• Physical Touch
• Quality Time
• Receiving Gifts
• Acts of Service

1. Words of Affirmation

• You’re beautiful, you’re amazing, I’m proud of you, I appreciate you, I’m here for you! These are just a few examples of words of affirmation. Are you the type of person that lights up when someone praises you or does it make you cringe? When words of affirmation are your number one love language you are always in need of verbal validation to feel loved and appreciated. Hearing a simple “you’re beautiful” or “you’re amazing” from your boyfriend makes your heart flutter and you swoon with love. If this is your love language then it is important for your boyfriend to know that you need to hear these words genuinely from them daily and vice versa if words of affirmation are your boyfriend’s number one love language.

2. Physical Touch

• Physical touch is a nonverbal way to show love involving holding hands, kissing, hugging, cuddling, stroking, and just wanting to be physically close to your boyfriend. If you’re on the couch with your boyfriend watching a movie are you wanting to cuddle him or simply having your hand on his leg or are you like- “love you but I’m getting the corner seat of the couch, you sit there and enjoy the show!” Understanding how you and your boyfriend feel about physical touch in a nonsexual way will help you understand if one of you has that as a dominant love language. For example, if physical touch is your dominant love language but it’s your boyfriend’s last love language it will make you feel unappreciated or not loved if he’s not initiating holding your hand, randomly kissing your neck ect.

3. Quality Time

• Best described as giving your undivided attention to your boyfriend and vice versa. Do you feel the most loved when you and your boyfriend put your phones down and give each other your 100 percent undivided attention? Or do you just need that every so often? Well if you are like “oh my gosh yes that is me, I need quality time” then it is important for you to understand this about yourself and for you to express that to your boyfriend. Maybe it’s saying that every night after 9 pm phones are off and you are giving your undivided attention to each other. For example, if your boyfriend’s number one love language is quality time but you work two jobs and can’t see him every night it’s going to eventually get to him and could cause your relationship to become rocky. So knowing that this is the number one love language for one of you will help you navigate your relationship and help it thrive!

4. Receiving Gifts

• Are you the type of person that loves a gift for anything and everything you do in life? for example, you just got promoted at work or passed a test, to celebrate do you want a tangible gift like a necklace, flowers, or chocolates? If so, receiving gifts is your number one love language. When receiving gifts is either your or your boyfriend’s love language you’d feel most loved through tangible objects. For example, if your love language is receiving gifts and your boyfriend’s love language is words of affirmation he’s going to show you love through shower you with loving words and admiration but you are going to feel unappreciated and potentially neglected since he didn’t give you a gift. So if you were both to fully understand how you receive and give love he would understand that putting all of those loving words he loves to tell you because it makes himself feel loving into a card along with a gift would make you feel the most loved while also making himself feel loving.

5. Acts of Service

• Simply put, acts of service is doing something for your boyfriend that you know he would love and appreciate. For example, pre-setting his coffee in the morning, making dinner, doing his laundry and putting it away, washing his car, and or doing something on his to-do list to help him out. Knowing that either you or your boyfriend have acts of service as their dominant love language will be extremely helpful for you both to understand how to navigate daily life.

How to Navigate Your Love Language

• Knowing your love language is so important to understand how you give, feel, and receive love. When you take the test it’s about 5 min long and you have to answer honestly and with the first thing that comes to mind. Your love languages will be ranked from dominant to least dominate through a percentage scale. This being said you have all 5 love languages within you but you will find out which one is your most dominant. I’ll give you my test results as an example. For example, my dominant love language is Words of Affirmation
  • • • • 40% Words of Affirmation
        • 20% Quality Time
        • 17% Physical Touch
        • 13% Receiving Gifts
        • 10% Acts of Service

Find Your Love Language

• I know now you are eager to find out what your love language. Once you find out yours make sure you have your boyfriend take the test as well. Once you have your results, take the time to talk to each other and see what it all means to you and how you can move forward positively with this new amazing information.

Take The Test Here

5 Love Languages – The 5 Love Languages®

I’m so excited for you to find out your Love Language and for you to find out about your boyfriends as well. Cheers to a successful and happy life together! 

All my love!